Thanks for the response Barton and I agree that the submissive you are training has an big impact on what you choose (or more to the point, what she/he chooses) to use. Your post is good advice for any dom, but I was more interested in what you prefer to use for your own pleasure.

For example I really enjoy controlling my submissive through words and gestures both in private and in public. I've worked on that for a long time with both psychological and physical training and I am loving the results. I think that I could have managed it with the psychological alone, but I doubt I could have with just the physical.

Good dominants know -or should know- not to use something harmful or useless to the submissive they are with, but we are also in it for our enjoyment, not just the submissive's. I'd like to know which you like best, not which is best for your submissive or submissives at large.

Just so everybody knows I'm also interested in the submissives' view on this.