That's interesting, her_Joe. A couple years ago I struck out on the Internet looking for a relationship that would be strictly online. After a couple weeks I found a guy I really liked (a Dom), who was fabulous online, but immediately wanted to arrange periodic r/l meetings. We never got around to doing it, and I was definitely hesitant.

It didn't really work out, and a few months later, I met another guy online. This time, I definitely wasn't looking for a romance, but we completely fell in love, and within a couple months were discussing going r/l. As in, moving across the country! (Which is apparently your situation, too.)

In retrospect, now I can't imagine having a serious relationship without plans to take it r/l. It just wouldn't work for me.

That said, I am a verbal creature. In an online relationship, I might like a photo, but everything else can be written. As TG said, it's much more personal and revealing than choppy video of someone going something dirty.

Most importantly, kinkst3r, you shouldn't do anything you're not comfortable with. Nothing wrong with holding out for someone with the same attitude as you. Almost everyone will want a pic, just to get an idea, but I think the best Doms out there will be happy with a non-visual relationship.