In theory I surely agree with TG. I hate the cam and am not that comfortable on the phone either and a large part of my life occurs through plain email and IM --

but I also confess to being a visual creature, and the cam adds a dimension to the experience that I cherish.

But I would also be interested in leaving that part of the experience out and can see that it might add wonderful opportunities to a arelationship ... especially if those involved were competent writers.

But this is coming from the point of view, so you know, from the POV of a dominant who is forced into cyber by necessity and will never look back longingly at it when relationships move to RL. In my own case, without judgment on anyone else, I wouldn't be interested in any relationship for long that wasn't leading to real life contact.

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