I remember reading your post, and looking at her website and stuff, and I think that posters here were just trying to be a supportive community, which is pretty much what this is. I'm not saying that all Dom/mes are like that, but there are many that are, and, as a Dom, I feel almost responsible for submissives that are getting into something with Dom/mes that are fake.
I think you need to relax just a bit, and not try to bite back towards people that were just trying to help you out, thats what you're here for...support in a life that you are just learning about.