Mysc,

Once again going to weigh in with my opinion.

I agree with Tom, becoming a good Dom is all about pleasing the sub. I treat every sub differently because each of them reacts differently. Continue to give him pointers, and, like hisj, be patient. If this is what he really wants eventually he will become a good Dom and focus on what works for you both.

As for pleasing him, I am sure he knows that is your desire. As a Dom I reinforce the things that a sub does that please me so she will know what to do. This actually please her, because her greatest satisfaction comes from pleasing me.

D/s is a bit more complicated than one person doing all the giving and the other all the taking. Eventually this relationship will blossom into something you cannot imagine if you are patient enough to guide it, yet give it room to go its own way.