Rhabbi I see your point, but that's something I have done in my previous relationships and somehow that always turned out to be a turn off at the end..
I did not mean to suggest that you make it a way of life, but there is only one way for him to actually gain experience, and that is through actually doing these things. Would you prefer that he learn from you or from another person. My guess is from you.

Topping from the bottom in the way I meant it does not mean telling him what to do, but how to do it, and then letting him know how much you appreiciate that he is doing it the way you like. then encourage him to try what he thinks he will enjoy.