Quote Originally Posted by ^firefly^ View Post
mari,

I got asked something very similar the other day...do I misbehave on purpose to get punished? It's a whole 'nother can of worms, isn't it? I'd say I don't do it consciously...but like you said, there are times when I want something, and for some reason instead of doing the logical thing (asking for it), my brain short-circuits and I end up pushing a button that I know will get a response I don't like. I suppose some part of my brain finds "negative" attention better than no attention at all. I know I need to work on it (in a big way!)--but sometimes having it pointed out to me (when I'm being difficult/disobedient) is enough. I *really* don't want to disappoint him, even though I'm sure it must seem like it, sometimes.
Now I wonder if it would really be disappointing or maybe just looked at as another aspect of a relationship. There is no way in hell two people can see eye to eye 100% of the time. Though I may not like something or disagree with it completely I still don't see myself being disappointed in her behavior if it is truly in her nature to act in a manner consistent with how she is feeling at the time.

Maybe I'm just too easy going but that is how I feel. This is not in the least to say that if and when she needs punished she won't get it because she will and already knows what to expect as punishment. Still I don't think she would disappoint me at all. I don't know about others but I actually try to get AG to screw up so I can have reason to punish her. So far that hasn't happened. Maybe that is why I see no disappointment on my part. I know she would be disappointed in herself for what she perceives as failure but I really don't see myself being disappointed in her at all.