Quote Originally Posted by Tang
Maybe I am looking for some outlines of what we should be aspiring to in good practice.
Tang,

Welcome to the forums! Your posts are good reads. There actually is a similar thread to what it sounds like you're looking for here: http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=2129

Parts of the thread are a bit off-topic, but there are some excellent points about the qualities of a good dom.

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