Ok, I agree with the posts ~it would be silly not to listen/hear you. I think today just kind of put the nail in the coffin for me. He came home last night, and wanted to have it out, but not before he ignored me for 2hrs. I got out of bed(waiting) to sleep in another room, quite clear to me, he didn't want to talk/work things out and he heard me. Came in and told me to get back in our room, or it would be the last night we'd be sleeping together. After a bit of a discussion *ahem* he said to choose the couch or our bed. (remember that the choice is a big deal for him, ultra-important) An ultimatum, I chose the bed, knowing in my heart that he would start something, somehow.

F/Forward to this am. He won't kiss me, I have to kiss him. He makes me do the work and I call him on it. He bends and we talk. Ok. Then, we agree, sorta do a makeup thing, have sex and then he continues to talk about 'issues'. So I've kind of realized that no matter what, it will always be like this. ** Yes, we did take the kids out to a different city today, I paid. I paid for the gas $40, Dinner $61 and the tickets to the centre we attended $26. All on my credit card ~ moi* So he thanked me for giving him such a nice day and how it gives him hope for our r/ship. (*But he won't use the c/card to get his medication -$140*)
Whatever......I give up