Quote Originally Posted by Merrioc
pardon me on this one but if my girl came up to me and said "I'm board with our scene's I wan you to come up with a new scenario" I or even close I would slap her in a heartbeat, excuse me but it is NOT the place of the submissive to tell the Dom to do something or the ever popular "I want" this isn't about the submissive wants. If submitting is all about what the submissive wants, then she/he isn't a submissive. She's a top that wants to be beaten or spanked or tied up or any number of fun kinky things, but she wants to control the scene have it play out her way, or have the scenario play out a particular way. their is nothing submissive about that and just cause your on the receiving end of a tool doesn't mean your the submissive in a scene.
Hmmm *thinks*. i'm not sure if you could have taken what MrJG said the wrong way, i don't think he meant he wanted his sub to demand certain scenes, but rather that he appreciated her contribution, and, as the dom, he surely has a right to be able to ask that!

However, having said all that, in actual fact, i agree with you, personally i have never been aux fait with the whole 'making loads of suggestions' thing, as to me, it seems to pick at the very heart of the Ds relationship (exploring things at the doms instigation)...BUT, i have to say, i seem to be (judging by some past threads of this specific issue) very much in the minority, which is why i have largely kept quiet on it....and i kinda get to thinking that if the sub wants to make suggestions and the dom also wants it...then that cannot logically be topping from the bottom.

my own dominant sometimes asks me what i thought about during masturbation, other than that, i think He probably ascertains my satisfaction with the relationship based on my behaviour.

i'm sure there's a thread on this issue somewhere, i'll try and track it down and post it if i find it.

sl

Found it!

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1952

There arn't a great number of posts on it, but i think those who did post illustrate the issue pretty well.