As you have noticed, each and every relationship is different. There's no "cookie cutter" answer to your question. i can share with you my thoughts and feeilngs nd asabout my own personal submission, and hopefully with that, you will find some
of what you are looking for.

i am new to this community, and as you all will see in time, i'm either long-winded or "one-liner" blunt. There is no middle ground. i think this one may get long-winded.

i am submissive 24/7, inside our home and outside our home, alone or in a crowd of people, around friends and family. However, the physical "display" of my submission is tailored to allow for any and all situations.

For example, one of my rules at home is to ask permission before leaving the room. That's all well and good when Binder and i are the only ones in the room, however, if our kids are present, or anyone else for that matter, the way i ask permission is different. Instead of saying "May i", i just need to let Him know where i'm going and why. "May I go start dinner?" would translate to "i'm going to go start dinner - do You need anything before i do?" when others are present.

Another rule i have to is kneel when He enters a room. Most times, before He comes home from work, i am able to scurry away from the children to our bedroom, strip naked and He finds me kneeling or presenting myself in the floor. If for some reason this is not feesible, i am to bow to Him when He enters a room. The next phase of that, just depending on who else might be around, is to subtly bow my head with eyes toward the floor until He acknowledges me.

In public, we are always touching each other in some way, be it holding hands, or me holding his arm. i don't wander off by myself. If there is something i would like to go look at, say at the mall, then i ask Him if i can. He then takes me to look at it. i speak to others, store associates for example, only if they speak directly to me. He is the one who does all the talking. If there is something that needs my input, i do not offer it until He looks at me, giving me permission to. On the other hand, if it's something He knows nothing about, or doesn't particularly care about, i do all the talking. In the end though, when i say "Do You like this one?", that is the signal for Him to give His permission or not. If He were to say no, then it would be no.

If a friend asks me to lunch, i tell them "let me check my schedule and i'll get back to you". This buys me time to ask permission from Him. Even if it something that i know He won't mind, i still ask permission, or at the very least make Him aware of it, since He is to know where i'm at at all times.

In short, it's me being conscious of the fact that every word, every thought, every action is a reflection of Him, not only to His face, but in my mind as well. i am loving, respectful, and obedient when He's around, as well as when i'm with a group of girlfriends. i don't sit around and do the "male bashing" thing. Although, He wouldn't know if i did, i just don't do it. That, to me, would only be "role playing".

submission, for me, is a mindset; a personality if you will. It is not something i turn on and off as i please. i am submissive in my mind first. my body then follows that path of submission. i am submissive in each room of His house, not just the bedroom. i am submissive no matter who is around, not only when we are alone and naked.