Quote Originally Posted by jaeangel
There are different levels of submission, and what may be good for Master514 may not be right for you. Are you looking for a 24/7 realtionship, where you will be completely submissive and available for your Master, or are you considering something more...'part time', for lack of a better word? There are a lot of part-timers out there, and despite how Master514 made it sound, there is nothing wrong with them. They are just as capable of forming a long-lasting relationship only including B&D play part of the time. For many reasons, many people (even though they have submissive urges) might find a 24/7 relationship difficult to maintain, or even more than a once a week thing. I am a submissive, married to a vanilla man, with two very young children. My husband and I are currently looking for a Domme to whom I can submit...but for obvious reasons a 24/7 wouldn't work, so we're looking for someone in our area who will take me on part-time. Very part time, maybe once or twice a month, because of Hubby's work schedule and the fact that I can't drive. Until I do find that perfect Domme, I do 'play' with myself in the bathroom using various things; I spank myself, crop myself, tie myself up, give myself ice-cold 2-qt enemas just to feel the cramping and pain, and I have a variety of toys to use in various orifices. They enable me to live out my submissive fantasies whenever it's convenient for me.
I understand about convenience and outside pressures, as certain people seem not to. And don't worry; just because you can't commit full-time for any reason doesn't mean you're not less serious about the depth of your submissiveness. Read some of the threads here, read some non-fiction stuff about self bondage or self-torture visit your local adult shop, and just...do what feels good to you. Just be careful!
(this from the girl who lost her vaginal dildo up her ass and ran up a $4,000 hospital bill before it came back out!! )
Thanks youve been very helpfull. Ill do some of that. Nice hospitla bill, I don't think Ill be spending that much on hospital bills