Quote Originally Posted by sugeneg
I was thinking of your thoughts on sending her a necklace she can wear in lieu of a collar. I am envisioning it as a kind of training collar, to let her have the feel of something around her neck and see how she does and how that makes her feel. I have bought a small silver herringbone snake necklace (not sure how else to describe it) that sits quite high on the neck (at the base) and is very pretty but with some weight to it so she will know it is there and that she can wear all of the time. Just wondering if you have done this before. I have given real life subs such training collars and thought it would be one of the things that may even have more meaning for an online/distance sub.

Jason
I think that is an excellent idea. I too have sent on-line submissives something to wear that acts as a constant reminder they are "Owned" as I train them. My current submissive (together 5 years and we met and began on-line) tells me I gave her a bracelet to wear as a training "collar". Actually it was a slave bracelet dating from the 10 century that I had found on-line. It was something special that just she and I knew the real meaning, and was effective as a constant reminder to her entering into this special relationship.
Your choice of "collar" sounds perfect for your submissive.
The other thing that also works is a "choker". Many women (whether lifestyle or not) wear these and it is very close to a real collar, without drawing undue attention. I will post a pic here in a couple of days of one that I bought for her this past spring at the St. Louis BDSM conference.
Thanks for your continuous sharing.

BTW, there is a thread under "My BDSM Life" called Help with on-line Punishment (http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...1502#post21502). Some interesting ideas if and when you wish to utilize punishment.


SirW