You guys are absolutely right...I like getting a female perspective on this. Believe it or not, it helps! That's one of the reasons I visit this site everyday!

And yes, it has gone that way at times in the past. It's just that on that particular night I was really in to keeping my myself in a high state of arousal for the duration of the session...I think I just got so annoyed with myself that my mental state came when I did! I was mad at myself!

I guess it's just the dynamics of individual relationships... I have no problems playing for hours without getting off myself. Whatever I am doing to her...pinching, whipping, abusing...most of the thrill for me comes from seeing her get off on it. At the same time, she feels somehow "cheated" and gets upset if I don't cum. If I don't at some point, I feel like I let her down.

I get so caught up in making her cum that sometimes I forget about myself. Does that make me weird?

But in the end I like the "jerk off earlier" idea. (Although it would be hard to do it more than I already do without growing an extra arm!) But I will give it a shot next session.