In my last few sessions I was not told what was going to happen, though did see the equiptment, it was scary and exciting and Oh god it was fun and deliciously painful. It was a very rewarding experience that Im grateful for.

I think him telling me would have taken away from the anticipation, so overall this was more exciting for me. I was blindfolded and gagged.. He did an excellent job of reading my body language because some of the things really pushed my buttons and hurt like Hell.. (caution taken)

But I do see the use in that kind of discussion, especially if you're moving into things that might be pushing limits. Although there are other ways you can let your partner know what's coming During a scene before it actually happens rather than speaking about it beforehand. ie sliding a bullwhip around her body, letting her smell the wax from the candle burning, lightly drawing the needles across her skin without breaking it etc.

Of course use safe signals/words as necessary to keep communication, as long as there's backup for if anything happens, I dont think theres anything wrong with not knowing whats happening. If everyone knows limitations etc beforehand, there shouldnt be a problem. Read body language, have common sense, and all is good.

I guess more or less I go with it, my partners would know what i was willing to experience beforehand that anything they do wouldn't be a problem. Lest I kick their ass when they untie me. ^_^'

~Daes