I would never hit my child in anger. This teaches the child that no matter what they are upset about, hitting is the solution. This makes them into bullies.

I will spank my child, yes, but not when I am angry because if I punish when I am angry, I run the risk of hurting her. That is where shaken baby syndrom. People handing out punishment when they are too angry to think straight. I will use spankings as a last resort or a quick smack on the behind when she is acting out in public to let her know that if she does not smarten up, there will be more to come later.

This reminds me what my little cousin said to his mom after he lost his game boy.

Cousin: "mom, can I have my spanking now?"

Mom: Confused "Spanking? What spanking?"

Cousin: "Well, it doesn't hurt as much when you're not mad."

Just a funny little story I'd though I'd sahre.