Originally posted by mica
What went wrong? How does someone like me go about finding out ahead of time if a man is apt to wanting to be in a dominating relationship?


Nothing went wrong. He did something very nice for you and performed a selfless act for your enjoyment, not his.

The best way to find out your partner's interests is to ask. The best way to avoid losing a lot of time on relationships that aren't what you're looking for is to be up front about what you're looking for right away.

I write a section on onlie dating and relationships in the BDSM Library Dungeon but there's a lot of information there that can help with real life dating as well. Just apply the rules to your real life partners as they are writeen for online ones.

Most importantly, if you're serious about what you want, then don't stop looking. You will eventually find the right person for you.